5 ways marriage has changed me. 5 ways, 5 years. Come the 30th of this month, that’s how long Jason and I have been together in this thing called marriage.
Sometimes I cannot believe it has already been 5 years, sometimes it just seems like yesterday that we were saying I do, and then laughing because the cake fell over. But other times, it seems like it has been forever. As if I have know Jason all my life instead of just the past 7 years.
We’ve made it 5 years! I’m sure grandma is laughing as she reads this and thinking, “that’s nothing, we made it 50!” But in today’s society, it is a long time, sadly enough. Regardless of whether 5 seems like an important number or not to you, it is to us, and we will be taking a teeny, tiny little anniversary trip that kinda includes celebrating our birthdays at the same time. More on that later this week.
I’ve been thinking though: I’m not the same girl that stood in front of the minister, friends and family, saying “I do”. I’ve changed, some for the better, and some for the worse. Fortunately hubby took me for better and for worse.
5 Ways Marriage has Changed Me:
#1 I’m not so uptight about scheduling. Before we were married, you could ask me what time it was and without looking at a clock that minute, I could tell you within 5 minutes of the actual time. I always knew what time it was and stressed horribly if I was even a minute late. Now? Well, I’m glad to not be stressed all the time like that, but it would be nice to be on time again!
#2 I have found confidence. Not that you would’ve of guessed me to be insecure before, my loud mouth and rambunctious ways were just a cover up for how badly I wanted to be accepted. Now, the knowledge that my wonderful and yes, imperfect hubby loves me for who I am, lets me walk taller and be myself. Just having that one person, accept you just the way you are, (family usually does, but we often feel like they have to, so they don’t count), can do wonders for a person’s self esteem.
#3 My focus has changed. Instead of seeking to please and honor God, I focus on pleasing and honoring my husband. This is Biblical and right, but the Lord must still come first.
#4 I have found joy in homemaking. Before I got married, I had all the skills that it takes to run a home, but I didn’t find joy in doing them. It was just something that had to be done. Now, I love donning on an apron and working in the kitchen, I would still like someone to come in and clean up my messes, but that’s another story. Making our house a home and a haven for hubby is such a joy to me now.
#5 I don’t always have to be going somewhere and doing something. Growing up on a farm, the work was never finished. Even weekends were busy, but as we got older, Sundays were a day to enjoy with our friends. Now, it’s ok if we come home from church and crawl into bed. Many days it’s more than ok! And I have learned that even though my love language isn’t quality time, and still don’t really understand just sitting together and not saying anything AT ALL, I have learned to enjoy it. Both for Jason’s sake and my own.
So those are the top 5 ways marriage has changed me. There are plenty more, like my weight, interests, and even the type of guy I would consider good looking!
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