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A Mommy Again (birth story) and Linkup

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February 14, 2016 by Kendra 22 Comments

There’s nothing like becoming a mommy, unless it’s becoming a mommy again!

We welcomed our second son Malachi Wray on Feb 6th and couldn’t possibly be more in love. Since I enjoy birth stories and many of you do as well, I’m sharing it below.

Keep reading or skip down to the bottom to share your Living Proverbs 31 posts in the linkup!

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I experienced ICP with my first and 90% of moms who have it once will have it again. We watched my levels closely while pregnant and they did show ICP but very mild. The itching I experienced last time was mild as well (thankfully!).

However in talking with my doctor and praying about it (lots of praying, although I tried hard not to stress) we felt that given the nature of ICP it would be wise to induce early this time as well.

Induction started Thursday around noon with the placement of cervidil (to prep cervix for labor). We brought Kolton with us to the hospital that morning and the 3 of us just hung out and had fun in the room while monitoring contractions. Jason put Kolton to sleep and laid him on the bed beside me and I took a little nap with him.

It was at this point that we learned I couldn’t lay on my left side because it did funny things to baby’s heart rate. Fine by me, I hadn’t been able to sleep on my left side most of my pregnancy anyway. It was too uncomfortable. Somehow I wonder if it didn’t bother baby all along and my body picked up on that.

—I think Malachi was in a funny position most of my pregnancy, given how uncomfortable I was once he went head down, and the fact that he refuses to lay on his back now. I lay him on his back to change his diaper and his little legs go straight up, rolling him onto his side. No matter what we do, he rolls right over onto his side—

Contractions increased in frequency and intensity during the afternoon/evening and my mom was supposed to come pick up Kolton so he could stay with her during that time. However, my poor mom got sick and Kolton ended up going home with an Aunt instead.

The cervidil came out at 1am and they thought I should rest before inserting another one (we used two with my first and I went into labor just from that). So I “rested” until 7, ate breakfast and showered before starting agin.

Nothing much happened Friday. Very uncomfortable contractions, mostly in my back and my doula came with the focus to help my labor progress with natural methods and get baby in a better position.

Sadly enough I didn’t progress a bit. Baby did change position though, but not sure it helped. As well, when I would sit straight up his heart rate went from 120-160 all the way down to 90-110.

Very strange and somewhat concerning. No more sitting straight up for me. I could recline on my back, lay on my right side, or walk (later walking made his heart rate drop too).

I wanted badly to avoid a pitocin labor but that became unavoidable. We started pit Friday evening and really hoped things would speed up but it was not to be.

Saturday morning, Jason ran home to spend a little time with Kolton and get a few things. At 10am we got discouraging news that in spite of my uncomfortable night I hadn’t progressed a bit. I sent my doula home to get a few hours of sleep.

By the time Jason returned though my contractions were definitely picking up and it was clear I was in for more back labor if baby didn’t turn. Labor became more and more painful and nothing was working to move baby.

Around 3 things were so painful and the contractions were quite regular even though still 1-4 minutes apart. They checked me and I hadn’t progressed hardly any. I lost it and cried. Between the pain and the hormones it was all I could do to get control of my tears again.

My doula came back around 6 and at that point it was full-blown labor even if I hadn’t progressed much. She explained that I was much too tense and started helping me by using verbal cues to get through the contractions.

I’ve had back labor and it’s no fun. However Pitocin induced back labor made my natural back labor look like a walk in the park.  I honestly couldn’t have done it without my doula. Needles scare me so an epidural wasn’t even an option.

After my huge disappointment earlier that afternoon I was scared to have them check me again as I didn’t think I could handle being told I hadn’t progressed again. But around 8pm they checked me and I was at an 8 and the head was right there!

By the time they filled the pool and I was able to get in, I must’ve been at a 10. Because…

I got in and immediately felt my body relax. The contractions still hurt but nothing like before and then I realized it was time to push!

Unlike my first labor where I pushed for over 2 hours, this time it was maybe 2 pushes! I was taking it easy, remembering how my tailbone broke last time. But after I heard it break again, all bets were off and I pushed him out.

So fast in fact that they weren’t hardly ready to catch him. I said “head’s out” and there was a lot of scrambling around! And Malachi made his appearance at 9:30pm Saturday night. A long slow start, but really less than 12 hours of active painful labor.

Recovery for me is taking a bit longer, but I am so blessed and thankful that Malachi is here safe and sound. I’m not one to push for early inductions, but this ICP stuff isn’t a joke (15% or more increased chance of stillbirth with ICP) and I still feel we made the right choice. Malachi was born right at 38 weeks.

He is small for the babies in my family, 7 pounds 8 ounces, but is doing quite well and big brother is in LOVE! As are we all.

Love this photo. He was there with me the entire time, my quiet support.

I cannot recommend water birthing enough for the relief it provides

The relief is real! (I also love how hubby is looking at me here)

Hello little one

Tiny toes

“I’ll hold your hand for awhile, but your heart forever”

 

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Respectful opinions are always welcome

  1. Tehila (Women Abiding) says

    February 14, 2016 at 9:11 pm

    Sweet friend! Congratulations!!! Malachi is absolutely gorgeous, and you are save a brave lady for bringing him into the world so courageously! I’m beyond proud of you!!!
    Plus you’re blogging after a week! Wow!!! 🙂

    Much love, care and prayer,
    Tehila
    xoxo

    Reply
    • Kendra says

      February 15, 2016 at 12:05 pm

      Well… I’m not technically blogging after a week, most of my posts were written ahead of time, this one being an exception of course. 🙂
      And I’m not so sure I was very brave lol I seem to remember a lot of noise! 🙂

      Reply
  2. Emily says

    February 14, 2016 at 9:18 pm

    Congrats! Thankful for a safe delivery!

    Reply
  3. Plain Bridget says

    February 14, 2016 at 9:48 pm

    Love hearing birth stories!!!! Water birth sounds amazing. But an epidural is not that bad. It actually hurts less than pitocin contractions. Take my word on it.

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    • Kendra says

      February 15, 2016 at 12:02 pm

      Well the point of the epidural is to numb the pain, so I’m sure it would hurt less. However I try to avoid all use of drugs. I did my best to avoid pitosin but it couldn’t be helped.
      As well, the nurse’s first attempt to place an iv in me resulted in a blown vein and it wasn’t really anything she did wrong. I just feel that if I can blow a vein that easily, putting needles in my spine should be avoided at all costs. Especially since the epidural doesn’t always work and sometimes causes really bad problems. 🙁

      All the same, a water birth is amazing!

      Reply
  4. Marci @ Stone Cottage Adventures says

    February 14, 2016 at 10:11 pm

    Congratulations on sweet little Malachi’s arrival! He is just perfect! -Marci @ Stone Cottage Adventures

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  5. Plain Bridget says

    February 14, 2016 at 10:13 pm

    Sorry previous comment of mine had a mistake on my blog name. I hope you have a great recovery!

    Reply
  6. Laura Lane of Harvest Lane Cottage says

    February 14, 2016 at 11:41 pm

    I’m so happy for your family. He’s adorable. Love the photos. What a treasure you have. Be blessed and sleep well when you can!

    Reply
  7. Lux G. says

    February 15, 2016 at 5:05 am

    Congratulations! Oh my gosh. Cute, adorable angel.

    Reply
  8. Mariana says

    February 15, 2016 at 5:48 am

    Oh those pictures are so sweet!
    Congratulations on your new baby! Oh and by the way love the name!

    Reply
  9. Lori says

    February 15, 2016 at 6:07 am

    May God richly bless your new life with Malachi and make him a mighty man of God. Congratulations!

    Reply
    • Kendra says

      February 15, 2016 at 11:53 am

      Thank you! That is our prayer for him as well.

      Reply
  10. Ana (@ANAWINSblog) says

    February 15, 2016 at 10:03 am

    Such sweetness. So glad he’s here safe and sounds and adorable! Congratulations, Mama! Enjoy your little boys 🙂

    Reply
  11. Cheryl @The Long Way to Go says

    February 15, 2016 at 10:59 am

    Thank you for sharing your birth story! I cringed when I read you weren’t progressing and fell apart. I can so relate. When my midwife arrived for my last birth, I told her up front, “You are going to examine me and tell me I am at 4 cm and I am gonna fall apart. I’m just warning you now.” It didn’t play out that way, but I was highly anticipating it because of previous births. So glad it all turned out so well! And he is beautiful! That hair! Those cheeks! The admiration your husband feels for you is evident in his eyes.

    Enjoy these new baby days.

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    • Kendra says

      February 15, 2016 at 11:53 am

      Oh… that wasn’t any fun at all! Glad that didn’t happen for you with your last birth 🙂

      Reply
  12. Kimberly D says

    February 15, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    Congratulations! He is absolutely adorable! I’m sorry you didn’t progress for so long. But, glad that once things got going it went fast. Thank you for sharing Malachi’s birth story. I look forward to seeing pictures of big brother with his new baby!

    Reply
  13. Kim Sullivan says

    February 16, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    Congratulations! I am so excited for you and I am glad your little man is here safe and sound. Enjoy this precious time!

    Reply
  14. Tiffanie of Truly Skrumptious says

    February 16, 2016 at 4:54 pm

    Love seeing more photos! I also love the two Jason ones, for the same reasons you stated, so sweet. And I ADORE the one where Malachi is making that scrunched up face! So cute! Congratulations again to your little family! 🙂

    Reply
  15. Linda says

    February 17, 2016 at 12:28 pm

    It’s such a JOY to have a child yes pain, but so well worth it. I had three. The pain leaves so quickly when you first see that precious child well almost quickly, but God gave us a great gift with having children. … Oh Congratulations my sweet friend in Jesus. My Joy is my grown children, and now my grandchildren. Our heavenly father has blessed me so very much even though I’m ill. Thank you so very much for sharing your story. Beautiful children also. I can see your husband loves you dearly.

    Reply
  16. Bibi says

    February 20, 2016 at 11:17 am

    He is so beautiful, Momma! Great job, loved reading your story. Hate all tou had to go through, though. I always wanted to try a water birth and if my insurance will cover it I may try it next time. Congratulations on your handsome Little Man!
    God Bless!

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    • Kendra says

      February 20, 2016 at 11:21 am

      Thanks Bibi!
      A water birth doesn’t cost any more around here. I just asked for a pool in my room and they get me one. I think it may depend on your hospital more than your insurance but definitely look into it!
      Both times it took my pain from “I cannot take it anymore” to “Okay, let’s do this!” Such relief 🙂

      Reply
      • Bibi says

        February 23, 2016 at 10:06 am

        I definitely have to look into this. I don’t like the “I can’t take this any more” contractions (LOL) but if it takes it from that to the “Okay, let’s do this!” that is such an encouragement to know. Thanks for sharing 🙂

        Reply

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