I’m doing something a little different for today’s marriage post. One of my awesome sponsors is guest-posting for me today. I didn’t intend for her post to end up as the Matrimonial Monday post, but once I read it, I knew you guys should too!
So here is Kassi from Truly Lovely.
Hi there! I’m Kassi and I am thrilled to be here guest posting for sweet Kendra! I feel like I know her well… You know besides reading her blog, I tend to win about 50% of her giveaways… Now. I have no idea why but I’m assuming it’s meant to be because she gives great stuff and I love winning it. OK so, back to me… That’s me on the right.
Kayli, on the left, is my sister and together we make up Truly Lovely. On any given day you might find a craft tutorial, a recipe, a random story… On Fridays you’ll find our Fancy This Fridays link up where you can show off what YOU’ve been up to. On Mondays we feature our favorites from the recent Friday’s link up. Other than that we can be fairly unpredictable… and we like it that way. We’re not predictable people so why write a predictable blog…
So onto why I’m here. I know Kendra just started Matrimonial Mondays and I have YET to contribute… I know, the shame. My husband and I have only been married just over a year… BUT we’ve been a couple for more then six, going on seven years! So I like to think we have a handle on this being a team thing. One HUGE thing I learned the hard way… You must always, always have your husband’s back.
I’m sure you’ve heard that saying, ‘the old ball and chain’? Yes? Ok. Well, that saying is stupid! You picked him. He picked you. If he’s a burden to you… why did you marry him? Why for the love of all things holy, did you say yes, if later on you just complain and gripe to your friends behind his back??
I get to stand on my soapbox for a minute because, if you’ll scroll up a ways… not far… you’ll see I said, ‘a lesson I learned the hard way‘. There was one time in particular that I didn’t always have my husband’s back. One time that taught me a lesson. We were out with friends, mingling, making new friends… when someone started a conversation teasing at my husband. It was harmless…. not malicious teasing I promise you… But I laughed along. I didn’t defend him. I hurt his feelings.
It didn’t matter that it was all said in fun. It didn’t matter who said it. What mattered was that me, his wife (girlfriend at the time, but regardless), wasn’t behind him 100%. It broke my heart to see how hurt he was…. lesson learned.
My plea to you sweet readers… A HUGE way to show your husband how much you love and commit to him is to always hold him in the highest regard. Like I said… you chose him. There’s gotta be a reason or two why… am I right?? Don’t ever, ever let anyone speak negatively about him. And don’t ever, ever let anyone hear you speaking negatively about him. Sure, he’s going to get on your nerves… but that’s something to talk about with him. Not anyone else.
Think about how hurt you would be if word got back to you that he said something mean to his friends, even in passing. I would be crushed. Husbands have those same feelings!
Tell me lovelies… What’s YOUR #1 tip for a happy marriage?
Thanks so much to Kendra for having me over today! Hope you’ll stop by Truly Lovely and say hello sometime!
Great advice Kassi, I too did not always have my husband’s back. And you are so right, had the tables been reversed I would’ve been devastated.
Now it’s your turn, link up any past or present marriage posts below.
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