Can a Couple Fall Out of Love?
We hear the term “fall in love” used a lot, but do people fall out of love? Or does “falling” have anything to do with love?
I’ve wonder about that for awhile now and I still really don’t have an answer. But I do know this, Love is a choice. I don’t think “warm and fuzzy” was how God felt when he sent his son for our redemption, and I’m positive that’s not how Christ felt when he gave his life for us.
What about marriage? Do you always have those warm and fuzzy feelings for your spouse? I know I don’t, in fact I often feel like this when it comes to hubby and I.
When he comes home and tosses his lunch box on the counter (where it shouldn’t stay), I feel like that. When his shoes come off and stay right where he took them off, I feel like that. When the honey-do list runs off the paper, I feel like that. I could say at times, I do fall out of love.
Those feelings are a normal reaction to an unpleasant experience. However, what if I changed how I reacted? What if I chose to love?
What if I cheerfully emptied the lunch box and put it away? What if I picked up his shoes, being thankful that the reason he was tired is because he has a job and worked hard all day? It really wouldn’t change any thing, but I would be happier.
When things get hard, and all those annoying little habits build up, you can become bitter and angry (the falling out of love) or you can choose to love and rejoice that he is only human. I mean, if Jason was perfect, he would’ve never married me!
I think as a new wife I had this idea of what love was.
It was him bringing me flowers. Kissing me and telling me I am beautiful. It was his smile when he looked at me. It was me, making him dinner each night. It was the house I made into a home for him. It was the time we spent together laughing and just having fun.
Guess what? I was right, but that is when love is easy. Now I think, (again) I know what love really is.
It’s Hubby’s unfailing love when I have been an ugly whining b*** (we all have those days) It’s how he makes me oatmeal when I am sick. It’s how he drags his weary rear home from work each day and hugs me before flopping on the couch.
Those actions above don’t sound “warm and fuzzy”. That sounds like a choice, or a commitment.
Perhaps though, we do fall out of love at times. Perhaps we are just going through a ho-hum day to day routine and we forget to make time for each other. We forget to nurture that spark God placed between us. So then, there is this bit of advice that I love.
In light of marriage, Kelly from Exceptionalistic and I are beginning a weekly link-up called Matrimonial Mondays. I would encourage you to write your own marriage related post and come back Monday to share it.
We also invited several other bloggers to help put together a Nurture My Marriage giveaway! All prizes are marriage/date night related and sure to be fun!!!
It’s live! Go enter to win a nurture my marriage prize pack and link up your marriage post!
The Love Story link up.
A special thanks and shout out to every one who linked up their love story last month on Hubby and I’s anniversary. I was going to feature a few on my blog, but they are all so unique that I thought I would just invite you to go read them all. There are only 9 of them so it shouldn’t be to hard.