The women’s right movement was huge in the 1850’s and they got what they wanted. Women can vote, hold any job position that are physically and/or mentally capable of and are recognized as valuable as men by our government. But did we lose more than we gained? Consider with me our Christian Women’s Rights.
Our Christian Women’s Rights
- As daughters of Eve we can claim the right to be loved by and to love one man. The right to fight for our marriages instead of just giving up and walking away.
- We can claim the right to stay at home and care for our homes.
- We can claim the right to have children (biological or adopted), and to raise them up in a Godly manner.
- We can claim the right to be respected and honored in our roles of wife and mother.
- We can claim the right to know what’s in our food by making our meals from scratch.
But with the dawn of the women’s rights movement, things began to change. Women started working outside of the home. This led to the children needing outside care, which led to being in school earlier and for longer. Convenience became the next big thing. Store bought bread, microwave meals, dinners ate on the go or in front of the TV, and a general falling apart of the family.
With their independence and the ability to be recognized as good as men in the workforce, things began to change in the home structure. Women started to take the lead, and men who were not strong leaders to began with backed down and let that happen. This isn’t biblical.
The man is to be the head, the leader, the one who builds the house; the woman is to maintain and make the house a home. But, when the man gave up his role as leader, he did not take up the woman’s role of maintaining. Instead he sat completely back and today we have weak men who fail to step up to bat as husbands and fathers. We have women who work full time outside of the home and then come home to all of her other wifely duties that must be done. This isn’t right at all, we women are strong, but we are not that strong.
When the man is not in charge, it’s easy for the woman to say “forget it, I deserve better than this, I’m leaving” and sometimes the man even says that. No more do they fight for their marriage, they fight for their idea of what their deserve. But leaving doesn’t work. Leaving leaves holes, it leaves messes, it hurts others. Better to stay and fight for what you have, than go chasing after what you think you deserve.
We’ve given our children over to the state to raise, while we go off to work, then we wonder why our children are not following after Christ the way we want. Why would they? The state is now raising them, and the state doesn’t follow the Lord; instead, it opposes him. While we are off chasing the American dream, we are losing our children, and failing the God’s trust and ultimately failing our children.
Moms who have more than 2 kids will likely relate to this one. Are they all yours? You know what causes that, right? How can you handle that many kids? Large families are a rarity and many women get criticism from their own families when they choose to have more than 2 kids. Oh and for the record: 3 kids is Not a “large family”. Somehow we’ve lost the right to have our quiver full of blessings from the Lord. If you have more than 2 kids you are likely to be considered odd.
How about this question: “So what do you do?” When you respond that you are a stay at home mom, there is instant judgement. Thoughts of lazy and useless, and not contributing to society can be clearly seen in the eyes of your questioner. Moms, never forget, you are best contributing to society by staying home and raising your kids in a Godly manner.
Sure, the women’s rights movement did benefit us in some ways, but we have truly lost our Christian women’s rights. We need women who are claiming their rights and staying home to bless the family. We need women who are willing to give up what they think they deserve and instead give their all to their families. Women who’s children will rise up and call her blessed and who’s husband praises her (proverbs 31:28). These women are the ones who will bring hope to future generations.
Just to make myself clear here: In no way am I trying to judge those who do not stay at home with their children. In fact, I owe my nanny job to a wonderful mom who works; and this will make it possible to keep my own child with me during a time when I also have to work. My purpose here is to remind Christian women of their true, God given rights. I want to call you to think about where you are and where your family is. My prayer is, that with God’s help we can be true to our callings as wives and mothers and can raise up children who will lead the world back to Christ.