One thing that helps a marriage is considering each other. It’s so easy to just do what we want and forget the others wants and wishes. Dear hubby is a great example of considering each other.
Since I’ve been on this Reboot diet, it’s been a little hard being around food. Obviously hubby cannot starve while I am dieting, so I fix normal food for him. He will often take his food and eat in another room, or wait until I leave the kitchen to eat.
The other day I heard him on the phone talking, and I hear “well, I don’t think we will come, Kendra has been on this..” He was turning down a chance to get-together with his family, out of consideration for me.
I really like his family as well, and I don’t want my diet to get in the way of life. So we went, every-one else ate, and I sat in my little corner sipping juice. Spending time with his family is wonderful, so I enjoyed it as well, even though I wasn’t eating.
Hubby’s example of considering each other got me to thinking. How many misunderstandings and arguments could be avoided, if we would just take the time and effort to consider each other?
I think this should apply to live in general as well. When we are considering each other we are no longer focusing on ourselves, but on the wants and needs of others. Is this not what Christ did for us? He took on the form of man and all the selfishness of mankind that came with it. Yet he considered not himself, but the whole picture and the will of the Father, thus laying down his life for sinners.
Marriage can be such an example of Christ if we allow him into our lives. In many ways, we can show Christ in our marriage by considering each other, by putting the each others needs above our own, through forgiveness and acceptance of each others faults. I could go on and on. 🙂
So tell me, in what way has your spouse shown Christ to you?
On to the Matrimonial Monday link-up. I would love for you to share any posts that relate to being a Godly Wife. And please visit each other, this is a party after all! 🙂
Sharing this here: The Better Mom, Modest Mondays, What Joy is Mine, Alabaster Jar, A Momma Story
Heidi says
March 11, 2013 at 12:03 amThis is a nice story. Even if not on a diet I think we need to consider each other more.
Kendra says
March 11, 2013 at 11:52 amOh certainly!
Nicole Becker says
March 11, 2013 at 1:23 amThat is so great that you and your hubby have a great marriage!! Wish mine was like that!
Kendra says
March 11, 2013 at 11:39 amOur marriage is wonderful. But we have to work at it and hard. At least in our case, we get out of our marriage, what we put into it.
Ugochi says
March 11, 2013 at 8:57 amMy husband mostly steps in to help when I am overwhelmed with chores. He always wants to relieve me of any burden in any way he can. Thanks for sharing this and thanks again Kay for another party, have a super blessed week!
Kendra says
March 11, 2013 at 10:01 amThat’s wonderful that he can see you need help. I usually have to ask, but I figure that’s ok too 🙂
Beth says
March 11, 2013 at 10:40 amThis is a great reminder to me, Kendra. Although it’s something we all should know as Christians, but sometimes I let it sit on the back-burner and let my desires sit on the front! 🙂 My hubby shows Christ to me every time I see him share his faith with our waitress/waiter and invite him or her to our church. Before we eat our meal, he’ll ask them how he can pray for them. He is so talented at being friendly and making new friends that I can tell this gesture brightens our waitress or waiter’s day. Thanks for hosting Matrimonial Monday!
Martha A. Galvan says
March 19, 2013 at 9:51 pmBeautiful.
YOu are very Blessed.
bluecottonmemory says
March 11, 2013 at 11:04 amIt’s the little things and the big things of consideration that show value. As a mother of 5 sons, it warms my heart that you value his family – that is a beautiful consideration. This morning on holiday he helped straighten the kitchen while I made muffins and sausage:) Or when he brings me a diet Dr Pepper:) Or when he asks about my day and is engaged in the telling of it:)
Kendra says
March 11, 2013 at 11:37 amThose are wonderful considerations!
One area we both struggle at is listening, unfortunately.
Martha A. Galvan says
March 19, 2013 at 9:58 pmI have a listening problem as well.
David, my guy friend, (I’m too old for a boy friend)well, he is a great listener.
I have learned to focus on listening better from him.
Have a wonderful day!!!
Julia says
March 11, 2013 at 12:03 pmHello my friend! I haven’t stopped in to “see you” lately. Hope you are doing well. Sounds like you have a great husband! I think mine showed me Christ when he jumped right in to help care for our twins right after they were born. Even the nurses were impressed! I never would have dreamed he would have done that… and it made me love him that much more.
Julia
Laurie Collett says
March 11, 2013 at 2:54 pmMy husband shows me his love in so many little and not-so-little ways. Thank God that He brought us together. Thanks for the great post & for hosting, & God bless.
Jacki M says
March 11, 2013 at 3:03 pmMy husband gets up extra early to do his workout so he doesn’t take time away from the family when we are all awake. Then after his workout is completed, if we are still all sleeping…he will help tidy up the kitchen.
I am blessed!
Kendra says
March 11, 2013 at 7:14 pmYou do have a wonderful man!
Martha A. Galvan says
March 19, 2013 at 9:59 pmWow!!!
He’s a keeper!!!
U r Blessed!!!
Paula V says
March 11, 2013 at 3:41 pmMost excellent post. Marriage is the relationship God created that mimics our relationship with God and Jesus. There’s an opportunity every day to be His light. I fail many a times but I’m striving all for His glory…to be the wife HE intended and not what I have in my sight.
Kendra says
March 11, 2013 at 7:13 pmI know! When you think about how marriage was truly meant to be, we can clearly see our Christian walk.
We are human, so we will fail, but we are called to strive everyday, just like you said. Thanks for stopping by.
Susan Alban says
March 11, 2013 at 9:44 pmI really enjoyed this post. Thank you for sharing it. My husband has been doing so much for me lately that he normally would do and I appreciate it so much!
HD says
March 14, 2013 at 2:57 amThat is the key to a happy marriage. Always follow Christ by serving your companion and putting their needs first. However, it is important to value yourself also and not stop building yourself. You cannot love fully if you have no love of self.
Tiffany Winner says
March 15, 2013 at 4:28 pman much-needed reminder for me today, thanks!
Wendy Pence says
March 17, 2013 at 9:01 pmMy husband & I try to consider each other a lot. Sometimes the hustle and bustle of life gets in the way. But, we try. And that’s all I think you can ask from your partner.
Kendra says
March 17, 2013 at 10:54 pmThat’s for sure. And when the focus is on each other rather than self, then if the other one isn’t as considerate or kind as they ought, then it is easy to overlook and forgive.
Martha says
March 19, 2013 at 8:00 pmI am divorced. And I can say, that our Lord was not invited to our marriage. I invited HIM to be part of our marriage, but the husband did not.
We were married in a church, Catholic, all of our family to wittness. However after a year of marriage I was attending Mass alone.
Kids came, and still just me and the kids attending church.
I know how it is to have Our Lord be included in the wedding and more importantly in the marriage.
I have been seeing a wonderful Christian man, and to see him pray with me. And to see his Faith in our Lord, is a Blessing. Yes, I am happy.
*I still read your marriage notes even if I am no longer married**