Do I appreciate who he is?
I think it’s just who we are as women. We compare ourselves, am I as skinny/pretty/talented as she is? Am I doing as good a job as so-and-so? In fact, when it comes to comparing and measuring ourselves against each other, nothing is sacred.
We compare our families, our children and our husbands. Most of the time we (at least I) don’t even realize we are doing it.
Like the past couple weeks. In an effort to stop focusing on the less than desirable things about my husband, I decided to start sharing some of the things that make him awesome! I then invited other bloggers to make their own lists and share them here, and the readers the leave part of their list in the comments.
Here’s where I went wrong, because I love every post that gets linked up to the party, I of course go through and read them! As I am reading I find posts that talk about how sweet and kind and gentle and caring, their man is. And some-how, all those good things I was thinking/writing about my man, flew out the window.
I’ll be honest here. Hubby is about as sensitive to people’s feelings as a bull in a china shop. Without meaning to, he has hurt my feelings more times than not. He sure didn’t mean to, half the time he didn’t mean it any where near what it sounded like.
So I’m reading about these sensitive men and starting in on the poor me thing again. Good intentions sure don’t last long sometimes.
But, here’s the thing. If he was sensitive, he wouldn’t last where he works. Those guys thrive on trash talking each other! In fact, I have been around guys who are sensitive, they make me think of women. Now, he could be kinder to me, but I am glad he doesn’t get his feelings hurt the way a woman would. He is a man, and I’m glad he acts like one.
Now if your man is the sensitive type, please don’t think I am trashing him, I am not.
What my point is in all this rambling, is to appreciate who he is. When you find your thoughts straying to the fact that “He never rubs my feet like so-and-so’s hubby does”; promptly think of something positive. “I’m so glad he helps me take out the trash each week”
When we focus on the good, after awhile the bad doesn’t seem as bad. Sure it may still be there, but we are no longer looking for it. Look for good, you will see good. Look for bad, you will see bad.
So my challenge for myself this week is to stop comparing him with others and to really appreciate who he is. Because the man God made him to be, is pretty stinkin’ awesome!
This post was written for and linked up to Matrimonial Monday. Come share your encouraging words!
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