Have Fun Together! MM #18

If you were to ask what is the most unique thing about our relationship, I would definitely say it’s how we have fun together. We were friends first. It was not a case of love at first sight. If you are a veteran reader here, you will remember The Dorky Looking Guy!

Having been friends first, it gave me a chance to get to know him.  We weren’t trying to impress each other as often happens when you are dating. Instead we were each being our goofy, quirky selves, and having fun together.

Here, we have fun together out on the Oregon Coast, after we had started dating.

have fun together!

Our engagement photos

have fun together!  As usual, we are cracking up over something!

  I like to make my hubby laugh, there is something about his laughter that makes me laugh and we just have a good ol’ time!

I read somewhere once, that laughter is good for you. I know it’s good for our marriage. Just to have fun together is important for our relationship.

What happens when one of us hides, while the unsuspecting other walks around the corner and gets startled? How about the time he put a huge marshmallow in my cereal? Or the time I put sliced cheese in his sandwich but didn’t take the wrapper off? At the end of the day when we are both at home there will usually be a confrontation, a tickle fest, and laughter, which leaves us staring into each others eyes.

A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance… Proverbs15:13

A merry heart… that means, even if he left his lunch box on the counter again, and his work shoes are in the bedroom. Don’t let resentment build up. When he is sitting on his bum while you are working, be cheerful!

I have noticed that my attitude, set the atmosphere of our home. When I am able to over look his faults and imperfections, things run smoothly. They may not run quickly or even in the right direction, but they run smoothly.  When I am upset and nagging, things grind to a screeching halt.

Our attitudes can make or break our marriage ladies, which one is your attitude doing?

Time to link up for Matrimonial Monday! Share how you are striving to be a Godly wife, relationship tips, and anything to do with being a Proverbs 31 Wife! :)


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Respectful opinions are always welcome

  1. “When I get upset or nagging, things come to a screeching halt” so true!

  2. Isn’t it great when you can laugh with your spouse? It sure helps when life tries to weigh you down and take away joys. I love laughing with hubby, over little things that no one outside our home would understand. Usually the cats get a lot of our laughter too…they’re amazing entertainment lol.

    I have to ask..where or how can I find a cape like the style in your pic? I really like that. My current ones are the straight style that tuck into the waist seams. Youre dress is very nice!

    • Ok cats? I think I may have found a kindred spirit :) Our cat provides a lot of entertainment, along with two other little critters which will remain unnamed. Inside jokes are the best right?

      We make our dresses. But to be honest, the lose capes like mine are a pain! They catch in the wind flutter, they fly into your face when outside, and often get in your way when inside. But I’m glad you like it :)

      • LOL yes, cats–a 16 yr old and a 1 1/2yr old, plus the kids. Never a dull moment in our home!

        Like you, I make my own dresses, hadn’t run across the cape style you wear before. I don’t wear a head covering per hubby’s wishes, but he prefers the cape dresses (although almost got him talked into a crocheted snood to go along with the dresses).

        I’m so glad to see others in modest attire and enjoying life!

  3. Hi! This post is wonderful, a good reminder! Being married is a gift and a blessing. The joy of marriage, it doesn’t matter if sometimes there are problems, life can be hard, but husband and wife, being together, smiling together is the best thing.!

  4. The Michael Bolton song comes to mind…..
    “CHORUS:
    How can we be lovers if we can’t be friends
    How can we start over when the fighting never ends
    Baby, how can we make love if we can’t make amends
    Tell me how we can be lovers if we can’t be,
    Can’t be friends”

    It is SO true! Hubby and I dated for a while when we were teenagers, then were friends until we got married, never officially “hooking up” the 2nd time we got seriously re-interested in each other again.

  5. Finding ways to laugh and have fun together are so important, Kendra. I’m glad you’ve highlighted this and challenged us to find that sweet spot of our marriage. I don’t think I pursue it enough–especially when it might lighten the mood. Great thoughts and thanks so much, as always, for the link up!

  6. Wonderful post. It is heart warming to see young couples loving, learning and laughing together!! I pray my daughters are that blessed. Good for you for trying to be a Godly wife…may we all strive to do so!

  7. Oh, I love your engagement picture! Thanks for providing a way to connect.

  8. Great post. My husband and I are the same way… we were friends long before we even considered dating. We’ve been married for almost 12 years, so we must be doing something right. We always get to laughing at something or another– sometimes at the wrong times (i.e. church, etc).

    Hope you have a wonderful week!

    Julia @ Mom on the Run x2

  9. Great engagement picture! You too look SO good together! By the way, I’ve been meaning to ask for awhile, but I guess I just didn’t want to appear nosy…why do you have capes attached to your dresses?

  10. Very true :) Having fun together is often overlooked! You have shared some great points, thank you…

  11. Thanks for the great post & for hosting & God bless! Laughter is often the best medicine!

  12. ^ agreed! Hubby & I laugh together frequently-we were having a hard time being serious during our workout last night, so I’m not sure if that meant we burned more calories since we were laughing, or less since we weren’t focusing on our movements!

  13. Somewhere my husband found a plastic roach. He left it sitting on the soap in the shower one morning. After I screamed, the game was afoot! Of course, I had to find a place to leave it to scare him — how about in his lunch box? Then he’d hide it — maybe perched on my toothbrush. After a few times, it had lost it’s startle factor, but not its fun factor. Thanks for the reminder :) Visiting today from Hungry for God.

  14. This is a great post! It’s so fun to read about true marriage based on loving friendship!

    Hope you have a great week!
    Mrs. Sarah Coller

  15. Thank you for your comment on my blog, Thank you so much Kendra!It will be a great pleasure for me!

  16. Keeping the fun in marriage is so important to happiness. Remember how much you giggled and laughed when you were first dating? Remember how you felt like children again, finding every activity rejuvenating and exciting? Marriages shouldn’t take those feelings away. It’s important we recall these early days throughout our marriage and try and bring back that same joy and excitement into our lives. For instance, try going out for bike rides, train for a race together, go exploring, fly a kite at the beach together. The more fun we infuse into our daily lives and marriage as a whole the more youthful we remain. It also helps strengthen the marriage by keeping your heart racing and your affection towards each other elevated. I’m so glad you’ve shared your experience and hope that this helps others to try and bring the fun back into their marriages.

  17. Hi Kendra,
    I just wanted to let you know that I have featured this post at Adorned From Above’s Blog Hop this week. Thanks so much for sharing with everyone and congratulations. You can grab a featured button at
    http://www.adornedfromabove.com/2013/01/wednesdays-adorned-from-above-blog-hop_22.html
    It’s in the sidebar.
    Debi and Charly @ Adorned From Above

  18. :-) Being married for almost 24 years, I realize how essential it is to laugh in a marriage. A merry heart doeth good like a medicine…

    Take care,
    Nonny
    http://www.notionsfromnonny.blogspot.com
    Stopping by from Adorned from Above

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