If you have been married awhile, you probably already know this. I know I did. But really, there is nothing like being totally down and out of it, to bring out “Prince Charming” in your man. He wants to be needed.
Normally, I am very independent. Not that I don’t except and want help, but if no one is there to offer, I do it myself and never give it a second thought. I’m not saying I don’t wish to be pampered a little. In fact, were my hubby to bring me breakfast in bed, or some sweet thing like that, I would be in heaven! But it’s not his nature to do that, and not mine to expect it, so there is very little “pampering” in our relationship.
So last week, when I looked like this: (read here to find out why I looked so bad)
Ok, so why am I showing you that? Well, to prove my point. I needed him that day, badly. It hurt to walk, and all I wanted to do was sleep and I couldn’t because it hurt.
When he saw how badly I needed him, how pathetically helpless I was; this guy who never does much to help me was falling all over himself to make me comfortable. He brought me water and a straw, an ice-pack, more covers, ibuprofen, rubbed my back, made me cream of wheat… Yeah, being sick is almost worth it, to get the royal treatment. (I did say almost).
He wants to be needed. Now I could argue that I need him all the time, and I really do. But most of the time, he doesn’t show up for me and I just go on my merry way. So my question is, and probably yours too, “How do we show him we need him all the time?”
My list is going to be different than yours, but it may get you to thinking about ways to show your man you need him, and also ways to show him you appreciate him.
- When he makes a “mad shopping run” so you can finish dinner, and doesn’t bring back the brand you normally buy, or he pays way to much for it. Thank him and tell him he’s the best. (If it’s a really big deal that he buys the right brand, then point it out the next time you are in the store together).
- Rather than impatiently trying to do it your-self, ask for help and when he finally does help, be sure to appropriately express your appreciation. (this will vary man-to-man)
- Damsel in distress works well in most cases. If there is a project I want done and he is taking his sweet time at it, I will often start it and “mess up”, then call him and say I think I did this wrong. After I tell him what I did, and listen to him tell me how I did it wrong. He will then inform me not to touch it until he gets home. Once he gets home, he then gets to “show off” how smart he is, I smile, nod and watch another project finally get finished!
- If you are really sick, he will often fall over himself to be your hero, but I don’t recommend getting sick. Even though he will do his best to make you personally comfortable, he will not understand that dishes in the sink and piles of laundry are not nice to have to catch up on.
So, every man is different, but I have learned my man rather well in some cases. I know that he wants me to need him, and he wants to be appreciated.
So how do you bring out “Prince Charming” in your man? Tell me in the comments below!
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