Some times I miss the guy I married. You know, you don’t intend to change your spouse (or maybe you do), but change happens.
He doesn’t come home every day looking for his kiss. The yard that used to look so nice is often a mess. The garden keeps popping up weeds.
I was certainly in a bad mood the other day and all I could think about was how he had changed, and not for the better mind you! I was so frustrated and the seeds of bitterness were growing fast.
So I am grumping and growling inside my head and thinking “it’s just not fair, I miss the guy I married. This guy I am living with now, well, he can’t be the one I married.”
But as I am calming down, a very alarming thought hits me. “Maybe he changed because I did?!”
Maybe he doesn’t give me a kiss when he comes home, because I am no longer at the door waiting for him. Maybe the yard looks rotten because I am no longer out there helping him. Maybe, just maybe, I’m the one who changed.
Maybe, if I would quit being so selfish and become the helpmeet that I was created to be, then I would once again find the man I married. So the change starts right here, right now.
On The Time Warp Wife‘s blog she shared how she was starting a gratitude journal in regards to her husband. So in the next 7-8 weeks leading up to Thanksgiving I am going to share 10 things about my husband that I am grateful for.
#1 He loves animals. In fact, if the two of us go into a pet store together it’s dangerous. Not only on the wallet but time. We have to go around and look at all the new animals and the fish. Then we get the cat food and then we often buy new toys or something for our pets. 🙂
#2 He is amazing with plants. And when he stays on top of things our garden thrives like none other!
#3 He makes me laugh. (need I say more?)
#5 He puts up with all of my crazy ideas. Yes, I have crazy ideas, who-da thunk it? 😉
#6 I love how he comes home from work and tells me he has a surprise for me. It’s usually another plant for the flower beds, but still, it’s the thought. 🙂
#7 When he holds me in his arms, I feel safe. (That is a big one!)
#8 He tries all my experiment dishes. (did you know I don’t use recipes very often?)
#9 Not only does he try them all, but he usually eats them with gusto! Good to know he likes my cooking. hehe 🙂
#10 How just hearing his voice on the phone makes me smile.
I really could just keep going. You see, even though I miss the guy I married, I realize I would also miss the man he is now. We are growing together, winning and failing and I realize that, that’s just life.