I wasn’t going to write this today, in fact I had something else in mind. But this is a subject that has been bothering me lately. I don’t mean to step on any-ones toes, but I do want you to think.
How am I respecting my husband?
I am talking about modesty. Now do I think every one should wear long dresses like I do? No. Do I think you should cover a little more skin? Yes.
Whether it be a lack of home training or what not, I always wonder just a bit when I see Christians wearing short skirts and shorts. By short I mean most of the thigh showing. Or when they wear low tops. So low that the girls are falling out.
To me, that says they don’t respect themselves. Nor are they respecting the young men that they are around. Now don’t get me wrong, the boys are going to enjoy it. But the men? The guys you want to marry? The ones who will treat a girl like a precious jewel, you disrespect them.
My husband has given me an interesting look at modesty as well.
With a group of strictly women I do zumba and wear a type of yoga pants. At home when it’s just him and I, I may have my hair down, I may be in comfortable shorts and tee shirt.
He will look at me and smile. He will tell me I am pretty and he likes how I look. Once he told me he wished I wore (something) all the time. In all seriousness I turned to him and asked if he wanted me to dress like that in public. I think the thought totally shocked him.
He looked at me for the longest time and then said, “No!” very emphatically. You see, I belong to him. He likes me and my body (which I can’t understand; uncovered, I am fat and jiggly lol) and he doesn’t want to share.
Remember the swimsuit post? I modeled it for him before it was revamped and he couldn’t keep his eyes off of me. But he didn’t want me to wear it in public. His reactions before and after I made over that suit was night and day. Before, he couldn’t quit looking at me. Afterwards, he looked at me once and said it looked nice. 🙂
Only for our husbands should we look sexy. To the rest of the world we should look “nice”.
He shouldn’t have to share. In Proverbs it says “rejoice in the wife of thine youth”. Read Proverbs 5:18-19. In Titus 2 vs 4 It says we are to love our husbands.
If indeed, we are loving our husbands, then our bodies should be covered. Our bodies are our gifts to our husbands. Would you give your husband a gift that is terribly wrapped, with evidence that it has already been opened and others have seen his gift as well?
In dressing modestly, I show that I value myself as a person. I am respecting my husband, by caring for, and keeping hidden the gift God gave him in a wife.
And for those who think dressing modest means looking frumpy. Think again. God created you a women. He meant for you to look beautiful. Embrace that. Wear colors that flatter your coloring, clothes that flatter your figure, but keep in mind what you look like.
Want to see what modest, feminine, and beautiful looks like? Here is a lovely post with all sorts of ideas.
Do you look like a sex symbol, with tight revealing clothes? Or a beautiful women in feminine attire?