I wasn’t going to write this today, in fact I had something else in mind. But this is a subject that has been bothering me lately. I don’t mean to step on any-ones toes, but I do want you to think.
How am I respecting my husband?
I am talking about modesty. Now do I think every one should wear long dresses like I do? No. Do I think you should cover a little more skin? Yes.
Whether it be a lack of home training or what not, I always wonder just a bit when I see Christians wearing short skirts and shorts. By short I mean most of the thigh showing. Or when they wear low tops. So low that the girls are falling out.
To me, that says they don’t respect themselves. Nor are they respecting the young men that they are around. Now don’t get me wrong, the boys are going to enjoy it. But the men? The guys you want to marry? The ones who will treat a girl like a precious jewel, you disrespect them.
My husband has given me an interesting look at modesty as well.
With a group of strictly women I do zumba and wear a type of yoga pants. At home when it’s just him and I, I may have my hair down, I may be in comfortable shorts and tee shirt.
He will look at me and smile. He will tell me I am pretty and he likes how I look. Once he told me he wished I wore (something) all the time. In all seriousness I turned to him and asked if he wanted me to dress like that in public. I think the thought totally shocked him.
He looked at me for the longest time and then said, “No!” very emphatically. You see, I belong to him. He likes me and my body (which I can’t understand; uncovered, I am fat and jiggly lol) and he doesn’t want to share.
Remember the swimsuit post? I modeled it for him before it was revamped and he couldn’t keep his eyes off of me. But he didn’t want me to wear it in public. His reactions before and after I made over that suit was night and day. Before, he couldn’t quit looking at me. Afterwards, he looked at me once and said it looked nice. 
Only for our husbands should we look sexy. To the rest of the world we should look “nice”.
He shouldn’t have to share. In Proverbs it says “rejoice in the wife of thine youth”. Read Proverbs 5:18-19. In Titus 2 vs 4 It says we are to love our husbands.
If indeed, we are loving our husbands, then our bodies should be covered. Our bodies are our gifts to our husbands. Would you give your husband a gift that is terribly wrapped, with evidence that it has already been opened and others have seen his gift as well?
In dressing modestly, I show that I value myself as a person. I am respecting my husband, by caring for, and keeping hidden the gift God gave him in a wife.
And for those who think dressing modest means looking frumpy. Think again. God created you a women. He meant for you to look beautiful. Embrace that. Wear colors that flatter your coloring, clothes that flatter your figure, but keep in mind what you look like.
Want to see what modest, feminine, and beautiful looks like? Here is a lovely post with all sorts of ideas.
Do you look like a sex symbol, with tight revealing clothes? Or a beautiful women in feminine attire?
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Hello, my name is Kendra. I am married to an amazing young man
named Jason, whom I lovingly call hubby when I’m writing. The only way I could ever explain our relationship is to use words like: crazy, silly, funny… well you get the point. He’s perfect for me! 
Wonderfully said! I just came across your blog and wanted to say hi!
Thanks!
Very well said!
Thanks
I very much agree and I’m glad that people post on this topic, but I find that people are sometimes defensive when it comes to the topic of modesty. The desire to be considered beautiful and sexy is a strong one, I think, in our culture.
Yes people are defensive sometimes, but I never meant to step on any ones toes. I am just calling how I see it
Oh I think you did a good job and I don’t think that just because people get defensive that we shouldn’t say anything! I just think it’s frustrating that people get so defensive sometimes.
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Very well said!!!
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You did a wonderful job with this post girl!!! I totally agree with where you are coming from and truth be told I never used to think about it! I guess you could say God’s been convicting me!
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This does bother me too, but sometimes I try not to think about it. I really don’t like showing too much, because I don’t have anything “for sale”. Shorts is about as skimpy as I get in public, and that’s not very often.
You said it very well, by the way.
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Nope! We are not for sale!
Nicely put Kendra! It is a great way to show your husband your respect for him by not showing the ‘goods’ as it were, to anyone else!
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wise words…and loving our husbands…linked up behind you at Duane’s…nice to meet you!
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Truth that lots of the world would not want to hear. It is sad that what is supposed to be reserved for their husbands, some women have allowed for public view. God help us to do the right thing.
Thanks Kendra, for sharing this truth with us, I pray that we all will make the adjustments necessary and also help the ladies in our circles of influence.
I did a post earlier on this topic. http://www.ugochi-jolomi.com/2012/04/indecent-exposures.html
I would like to link this post to it, if you approve.
God bless you K!
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oh kendra, i love love love this post you wrote!! While i don’t have a hubby or bf YET, i do and have been dressing more modestly as i’ve gotten older. I didn’t used to so much when i was in my early 20′s and im glad that God was putting it on my heart to dress more covered and respect myself but also the young men/and men…and at the same time, while doing so, i feel like i honor God as well. I like your metaphor about the unseen unwrapped gift…i want to be that for my future husband!
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Beautifully said! It is so important to teach our daughters these things, for they are the next generation. My daughter is 7 and we are always looking at how her clothes look and we discuss why we do and what needs to be looked out for. Thank you for sharing and linking up at Simply Helping Him! Blessings friend!
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Teaching children at a young age is the most important thing ever! Good job momma!
Yes! That is the only way our world will change, if we teach our children in the way they should go!
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You are very inspirational! My husband is not a “christian” and he has no respect for women dressed in reveling clothing. I think men desire a woman who saves their bodies for them to see not everyone. I love reading your blog more every time.
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Absolutely! whether Christian or not, men don’t respect women who don’t respect themselves.
this was a great post, kendra! God bless you for standing up for what’s right!! love how you worded it as well! blessings!
I appreciate you respecting that others may choose to dress modestly differently from you and still be modest. I don’t wear long dresses, but I do feel that I dress modestly.
on a funny note, its always freezing at our church. My husband just recently told me that he found out they do that on purpose so the girls will cover up! (We have a large college group-university town).
I thought, what a great idea.
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I love that! What a great idea Mary Beth!
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Ha! That is a wonderful idea. lol
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So true, the problem is most women don’t understand what causes men to stumble. My hubby and I have had many conversations about this but I still don’t get it. We just think so differently
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Well put and so right about our husbands wanting to keep us all for themselves!
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Great post. So many young women equate pretty with showing a lot of skin. I suppose that’s because that’s what we see all over TV and magazine covers. We’re programed to think that way. Just like we equate beauty with a size 2. I like how you brought about the idea of beauty with wearing what “flatters” us. Modesty doesn’t have to be frumpy and “old maidish”. And if the truth be told – modesty is true beauty. Anyone can get attention with cleavage, mini skirts, and thigh-high slits. But, a woman who has the glow of the Holy Spirit and knows how to choose colors and clothing that flatter her….well, that woman is creative and careful…honoring of her husband and brothers in Christ. That’s the woman I want to be! Stopping over from Thoughtful Thursday. Blessings from Croatia: A Little R & R: http://www.littlerandr.org
So true! “a woman who has the glow of the Holy Spirit” True beauty always comes from within.
Amen!! I grew up in a very modest community. Going to the city and seeing what people wear shocks me. However it saddens me even more when I see Christian women dressing that way. We are not to be of this world and modesty is a huge passion of mine.
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So true.
Thanks for these thoughts. Also, it just makes sense to me that, if I say that Jesus is inside of me, and that I am a temple of the Holy Spirit, I will dress according that incomprehensible honor!
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Exactly! The verse that says “you will know them by their fruits” really seems to apply in this case. If we truly do have the Lord in us then it should show.
I agree – For His eyes only to be sure. I always ask my husband what he thinks before I walk out the door. It is amazing to me after 28 yrs of marriage that he still finds me so desirable. I feel very blessed
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Great post, and well said! I think there are so many ways to dress modestly without looking frumpy!
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“Only for our husbands should we look sexy. To the rest of the world we should look “nice”.”
AMEN! While you and I may have different opinions as to what “modest” is, I absolutely share your heart on this subject. Thank you for sharing this at our Thrive @ Home link-up!
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Very likely our opinions are more alike than you would think. Modesty is a desire to dress nicely without calling undue and sexual attention. Right?
What a great post! I totally agree. I love to dress cute and sometimes a little wild! I love my leopard print! BUT I agree that you can still look fabulous and dress modestly!
Leopard print… I have a piece of fabric in the closet that I plan on making a dress out of and it’s pink leopard print!
I couldn’t agree more with you!
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Kendra,
That was said beautifully. I found you via Mama Marchand’s Nest. I have been here before though and I don’t know how I wound up here to be completely honest, the first time.
But I’ve explored a little and came across this.
I have 3 daughters and instilling just that has been difficult, to say the least. Especially as I have one that loves to rebel against everything I think and know is right.
I can’t say that I am always “modest” but I think I dress “nicely”
I loved your comment, “Only for our husbands should we look sexy. To the rest of the world we should look “nice”.”
Very well put my dear.
Kim M.
Dressing nicely, very well could be modest dear. And modesty starts in the heart. I am glad you found me and I hope things with your daughter gets better.
Things will {with my daughter, I mean}. She’s 19 so she is just trying to find her own way right now and we are many miles apart now.
Kim M.
Love this. I like the phrase “don’t advertise what’s not for sale!”
Thanks! I don’t think it’s original to me, but I like it too
I agree with a majority of this post and think it was very well written but I don’t like how you said ‘I belong to him’ when you belong to no one. I definitely don’t want my children to grow up thinking they belong to anyone but themselves
Hmm, I think we may have to differ in opinion on this subject. Because I feel, as a Christian I belong to God. I also hope to instil that belief in any children that He chooses to bless us with.
Knowing that you belong somewhere is very important, it gives one a sense of home. Likewise, knowing you belong to someone gives you a sense of security.