Should married couples take breaks? That is my question for today. I would love some honest (and kind) input from my readers.
A friend of mine recently told me she and her boyfriend were taking a break. Her exact words to me were “if he has to live without me for a week, maybe he will start treating me better”. Having been together with the two of them in the past, I gently asked her about how she treated him. She was unable to see her part in the deal so I chose to drop the subject. After the week was up, they got back together, but 3 weeks later they broke up.
I’m not against dating, but I firmly believe how you date, sets the standard for marriage. While apparently my friend and her boyfriend weren’t meant to be together, what about marriage? In a marriage where no one is being physically hurt or abused, if there is trouble, should married couples take breaks?
Some friends of ours were having trouble in their marriage, (can I just say, if you are married, you will have troubles sometimes) and they “took a break”. She moved out, and was briefly with another guy. Now, she would like to come back, but he now treats her as if she doesn’t exist and is with another girl.
Should married couples take breaks?
- “If we take a break, then maybe he/she will realize they cannot survive without me”
- “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”
- “I just don’t feel in love with him right now and maybe we should take a break to decide what to do”
Or, should they stand on the sacred ground of marriage and fight for it?
- Married couples will have problems.
- No one said you will always feel “in love” with each other.
- By taking a break, you are opening the door to infidelity.
So, what is your opinion? Should married couples take breaks? I would love to hear you thoughts.
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