It takes a strong woman to cheerfully submit to her husbands requests. It takes a strong woman to give up what she wants in honor of her man. Yes, it takes a strong woman to stand up for herself, but it takes an even stronger woman to stand up to herself. Tweet that.
It Takes a Strong Woman to Respect her Man!
For years women were considered the weaker gender. Until one day women stood up and said “that’s enough, we are just as strong as you guys!” and they set out to prove it.
Women went to work, they did manly things and they proved that they were “just as strong as men”. Or did they? It’s our nature to get our hackles up and go out there and do something just to prove something. But is that really strength, or is that just human nature?
It takes a strong woman to respect her man. Why? Because we think we know better. We think what he is asking of us is just a bit crazy.
It’s easy for me to sit there and argue with hubby; after all, “he has noooo idea!” To sit back and quietly respect his request, no matter how silly it may be, takes a bit of strength. It’s easy to fight the outer man, but to fight the inner man (self) takes strength.
Recently hubby asked me to chance the way I was doing something. Really annoying. His request was from a very legalistic point of view and a huge inconvenience for me. I didn’t want to do it. The way I had been doing things was just fine and who was he to come raining on my parade and telling me to do things differently.
Thankfully for once, I kept my mouth shut. Annoyed I walked away and tried to ignore the situation. But, as I thought on his request some more I realized something. Yes, it was very legalistic and had nothing to do with my salvation, or my walk with Christ. But, if I disrespected his wish, that would affect my relationship with the Lord. You see, as Jason’s wife, I am called to be his help meet and respect him.
If hubby’s request had been to take part in something sinful, or went directly against God’s word, then things would be different. But Jason’s request was neither of those; he was simply asking me, as his wife, to do a something differently.
Now in my mind. A weak woman would’ve easily said “no buddy, this is how it’s going to be”. But the strong woman humbles herself and submits. Or, if you are like me, you grump and growl inside your head, duking it out with yourself, and then submitting. 🙂
It takes a strong woman to respect her man. Will you join me in becoming a strong woman for the Lord and learning to humble ourselves in respect to even the silliest requests of our hubby’s?
On to Matrimonial Monday! Link up any post you may have relating to being a Proverbs 31 Wife. And don’t forget to visit with each other. 🙂
renee says
April 22, 2013 at 12:00 amAMEN!
Joanne Viola says
April 22, 2013 at 5:51 amSo very true! Being both a woman & being submissive takes far more strength than we ever realize. And I do think that the more we “practice” this, the stronger we become 🙂 I was your neighbor at The Modest Mom 🙂
Kendra says
April 22, 2013 at 9:44 amThe more we exercise the stronger we become. 🙂
Amanda says
April 22, 2013 at 7:54 amAbsolutely! I wrote a similar post a few weeks ago about this! It’s so hard to overcome ourselves sometimes!
Renee @ Great Peace Academy says
April 22, 2013 at 3:35 pmHi Kendra! I quite agree! Funny our posts this week are similar. 😉 I retweeted your post!
I would love for you to stop on over and link up with Marriage Moment at Great Peace Academy.
Ugochi says
April 22, 2013 at 5:13 pmThank God you submitted and obeyed. It does take strength and I thank God we have strength to obey God via His grace. Thanks for hosting!
Fawn @ Happy Wives Club says
April 22, 2013 at 5:22 pmWoohoo! Love that, Kendra. Especially, the tweetable comment at the top. So many don’t understand how respecting and admiring our spouse does not make us weak; it makes us strong. To give our all in a marriage is not a weakness. On the contrary, it requires great courage.
Kendra says
April 22, 2013 at 5:55 pmThanks Fawn, it does require great courage.
Laurie Collett says
April 22, 2013 at 7:36 pmSo true! Strength of character is reflected in our willingness to submit and serve to our husband as a model of Christ. Thanks for hosting & God bless!
momstheword says
April 22, 2013 at 7:56 pmYes, it’s a lot harder to overcome ourselves, isn’t it?
My hubby humbles himself to do what I’m sure feels silly to HIM when I ask him to do or not do silly little things that have to do with my thoughts on how things should be done for safety or cleaning, etc.
For example, I like shoes removed when he comes in the house so he doesn’t track in dirt. I like him to wear latex gloves, long sleeved shirt and safety goggles when he handles certain chemicals for the yard (even though they’re supposed to be o.k.)
But he does it because he loves me! And quite possibly because he doesn’t want to have to listen to me, lol! 😉
I already linked up today so thank you for hosting!
momstheword says
April 22, 2013 at 7:56 pmAlso, thanks for linking up to the “Making Your Home Sing Monday” linky party today! 😉
Judith at WholeHearted Home says
April 22, 2013 at 9:14 pmKendra, this was such an excellent post. It is convicting because even though we study submission and desire to be so, we often fail because we are so emersed in the wrong minset of our culture that we easily forget. I hope you share this over at WholeHearted Home this Wednesday as I think other women would be encouraged to respect their husbands better.
Thanks for hosting so faithfully each week.
Amy says
April 24, 2013 at 11:48 amAmen to that! Sometimes responding in the way Scripture tells us to respond is not an easy thing and takes major strength.
PS I’m your linky neighbor at WLW! 🙂
Kendra says
April 24, 2013 at 12:41 pmThanks for stopping by Amy!
Jamie@SouthMainMuse says
April 24, 2013 at 12:44 pmYou are so very right. It helps when your husband respects you and your opinions but unfortunately that is not always the case for everyone.
Shell says
April 25, 2013 at 2:47 pmSometimes it does take more effort for me to respect my husband’s wishes than for me to just do something my way!
MrsTitus234 says
April 28, 2013 at 9:46 amI love this topic. I was married for five years before I finally stopped balking at submission. It’s been three years later and the LORD is STILL teaching me and chastising me about this. I’m almost out of the wilderness on this one.
R G says
April 30, 2013 at 4:05 pmLegalistic: Following the law, to the letter, in order to gain salvation in part or in whole. It frustrates me how much this word is twisted to condemn having a high standard of conduct, morality, or lifestyle.
Otherwise, nice article.