After the post from two weeks ago on keeping secrets and why I regretted it, I thought I would share things you shouldn’t tell your husband. Yes, there are some things better kept to yourself.
I am not a fan of keeping secrets in marriage, read the post from 2 weeks ago if you want to know why.
However, there are things you shouldn’t tell your husband, or anyone for that matter.
Things You Shouldn’t Tell Your Husband:
I’m talking about empty words and gossip. How many times have you heard someone say something hurtful about you or your husband or family? Perhaps you even have that girlfriend who makes fun of or laughs at your man.
First off, if that’s the case, I sincerely hope that you stand up for your man and forbid your friend to continue. But secondly, is that something you want to burden your husband with? To this day, there are people I meet and instantly remember something unkind that they did or said when I was younger. I’ve forgiven them, sure, but it’s like the devil knows where to hit me and sometimes it’s just hard for me to smile and tell them hi.
I was thinking of this the other day, after I read a note that came in the mail from my gran. Now, I’m sure my gran was trying to be funny, and had no intentions of being unkind. But on paper, the words were hurtful, they were insulting and said that hubby and his family just weren’t quite as good as myself and my family.
As I read the note I felt annoyed. Then remembering who my gran is, and how she is at times, I understood that she was trying to be funny. However she was not, and if I were to actually show that note to hubby, he would then have this little annoyance in his heart towards her.
Sharing this with hubby would only hurt him, and perhaps he would even think I feel that way myself since I passed it on to him.
So what do you do, when you hear someone say something unkind or thoughtless about your husband? I know as women, our first impulse is to vent, and we vent towards our husbands right? 🙂
In this case you should first try and stop whomever is talking bad about your man. Back to proverbs 31:11-12 She will do him good and not evil… Secondly, take your hurt to your heavenly father, not your husband. You are to be a safe place for his heart, and that means not giving him hurtful things from others.
So, besides pleasant surprises, there are things you shouldn’t tell your husband. And if you still need to “vent” or just need to talk to someone besides the Lord of your hurt, then I pray that you have an older woman that you can go to and be encouraged by.
Let’s always strive to stand by our man, and not repeat hurtful and empty remarks made by others. Let’s be his safe place!