You may have noticed my overall avoidance of controversial subjects here at A Proverbs 31 Wife. I have very strong beliefs on most subjects and yet I constantly find myself carefully Avoiding Controversial Subjects or tip-toeing around most of them.
This has bothered me for some time.
Am I avoiding speaking truth because I want others to like me?
Am I not posting controversial stuff because I’m scared of losing followers?
Am I ashamed of the Truth?
These questions and many others have occurred to me time after time. I’ve prayed about it; “God if you have something for me to say, let me say it disregarding what others think, I will be bold for you.”
I still don’t have a full answer to those questions, but talking with my mom and a scripture verse that recently occurred to me have given me peace about where I am here.
Why I’m Okay with Avoiding Controversial Subjects:
My blog’s mission isn’t a “voice crying in the wilderness”, the mission here at A Proverbs 31 Wife is to “Encourage, Uplift and Empower wives and mothers”.
The world needs voices crying in the wilderness. It needs blogs like Matt Walsh’s, those who will get on their soapbox and cry out for God. But we all come from different places and we all have different hurts and struggles. Sometimes we just need a safe place.
And maybe that’s just it. I will be a voice of truth in a safe place. I hope I never give words that tickle the ear, but mean nothing. I hope to never give words that condone sin or give a false sense of security in sin.
I want to challenge you my readers to seek God, to seek truth, to open your eyes to the world around us and see what’s happening. But I will be gentle with your heart. I don’t know where you’ve been, so instead of showing you where you are going wrong, I want to show you where you can go right.
I’m just a sower of seeds. In 1 Corinthians 3:6 we read: I (Paul is speaking here) have planted, Apollos watered; but God gave the increase.
It is my prayer that the seeds of truth that are sown here will take root in your heart and later another will water and that someday God will give the increase.
So I speak the truth, but I speak softly. I don’t need to yell and tell you where you are going wrong. Chances are, if you are going wrong, you know it.
When I do tackle controversial subjects, I am careful with my wording. I try hard to not use offensive language or to draw lines. I want to draw circles, circles that draw you in, circles that show you that God’s love reaches to all.
I try to be, yes, politically correct. Here’s why: Luke 17:2 “It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.”
Some people are just too easily offended. I KNOW.
But I do not wish to hurt my brothers and sisters in Christ. So I am careful. Christ spoke out against the scribes and pharisees because he knew their hearts. I can see the outside of a person, I can see their horrible hateful words. But I cannot see their hearts, so I am careful not to judge them unworthy of Christ.
My dear sisters in Christ who are reading this. I know sometimes we feel like we need to just shout at the world. But the world is shouting too, so our voices may just get lost.
And here’s the thing, online it’s hard to know where the person is coming from. Just a bit of incorrect grammar or a single misspelled word can really change the entire tone of a post. Offline I am more vocal and avoiding controversial subjects isn’t as big a deal. People can see my face, and more easily my heart.
Just remember, the post you are seeing online isn’t even half the story. So you cannot truly make a good judgment on the issue.
If you are in the same place I was, worried that you are a coward for avoiding controversial subjects, just remember; sometimes it’s the quiet voices that are actually heard. So let’s whisper peace and love. Let’s quietly show God’s grace, and then, when asked (if asked), be bold for Christ.
If you were to ask me my opinion on anything from gay marriage, to adultery, to vaccines, I will have an answer backed with scripture for you. But I urge you to seek those answers from the bible yourself. Because ultimately, God is the authority here. Not me.
I don’t know if my ramblings here have made sense or not, but I’ve learned that avoiding controversial subjects doesn’t make one a coward. Sometimes it’s a desire for peace.