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Children Change Relationships – Living Proverbs 31 Wife

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April 2, 2017 by Kendra 7 Comments

Children change relationships. Really.

Jason and I were the “kids” goofy, picking on each other, always on the go. Then we had Kolton. We were still kids, but someone we had a baby to keep alive as well. So things change a little.

Then another child comes along and things change more.

Children change relationships in many ways, on many levels.

My relationship with Jason has changed. Relationships with my parents, siblings, cousins, aunts, friends, and so many other people have been changed since we’ve had children. Even my relationship with my Heavenly Father has changed.

Children Change Relationships

Children are wonderfully messy, little bundles of crazy. They bring joy and solemnity to our lives, and hold the keys to blessing or cursing.

Whereas Jason and I once put our focus on each other in a give/receive relationship, now our focus is on these little ones who only take, and take, and take. Yes, here and there, they are learning to give, but right now they need us to give unsparingly of ourselves as we train them up to become children of God.

This constant giving means at the end of the day, I am exhausted. Sometimes I call it “touched out”. I’ve given so much of myself to these little ones that I feel as though I have nothing left to give Jason.

Some nights he comes home and the last thing I want is to give him a hug. When he comes up behind me, I just want to run.

But.

I’m learning something. When he comes home and comes up behind me for a hug. He’s giving. I can stand in his arms and accept the love he is giving. He’s not asking me for anything in this moment, only giving.

Sometimes as moms we get so used to giving, giving, giving, that we don’t always know how to receive. Rather a gift feels more like a request and we don’t know how to simply accept with thankfulness.

The awesome thing is, when I let my husband give me love, I find myself relaxing and in the process I’m able return the love. It’s all in the mindset. Instead of feeling annoyed because one more person wants something from me, I began to feel blessed because my husband was giving to me.

Do you feel like children change relationships? Do(did) you feel closer or further from your husband after you had children?

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  1. Maree Dee says

    April 3, 2017 at 12:42 am

    Kendra – You have me thinking….. and it is good. I do look at that hug from my husband when he comes in as someone wanting something. I am gong to try and switch the thinking and see what happens.

    Thank you for sharing,

    Maree

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  2. Marci @ Stone Cottage Adventures says

    April 3, 2017 at 5:19 am

    Thank you for hosting this great party! -Marci @ Stone Cottage Adventures

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  3. Pamela says

    April 3, 2017 at 9:39 am

    We are closer now. I don’t know how much of that is our daughter and how much is just being married longer; we were only married 6 months when she was conceived. I am nearing the end of my second pregnancy now (37 weeks!) and I have never been more in love with him. That was not the way I was at the end of the first. He was scared about being a dad and frustrated with so much change so fast and honestly was being a jerk then. But he’s grown up and is a devoted father and we are now happier than ever.

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  4. Hasi says

    April 4, 2017 at 12:27 pm

    Kendra,

    I just found your blog. You are a wonderful writer and I look forward to visiting your blog again.

    I just started a blog and I hope you have time to stop by and visit.

    Blessings!

    Hasi

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    • Kendra says

      April 5, 2017 at 4:53 pm

      Thanks Hasi!

      Reply
  5. Kayla says

    June 5, 2017 at 9:07 pm

    Hi Kendra! I came across your blog in search of learning more in depth about your church. My dad was raised in the German Baptist church. He never joined but my grandparents are members ☺

    I love your humble view on this! This has actually been my struggle over the past few months. Mommy of two and having nothing to give at the end of the day. I will definitely be taking this approach! This was truly a blessing!

    God bless!

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    • Kendra says

      June 6, 2017 at 8:37 am

      Hi Kayla 🙂 it’s definitely a struggle. Glad to have you along!

      Reply

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