A couple months ago I shared how I missed the guy I married. When I realized that perhaps some of the issue was my fault and I begin focusing on the good, a few things happened.
One, I realized that I truly to have an amazing husband, not perfect, but perfect for me. Two, he began to be the man I thought I married.
Let me explain.
I started keeping a list of things I appreciated in him. I even blogged about him a couple times. In fact while one of the posts was in draft mode, I left the computer to fix supper. He came home and went back to the office and started watching videos. The thing is, the post draft screen was up and he read a bit of that post.
I know this because when I came back later to tell him supper was ready, I asked if he saved the page I was on. He got a very funny look on his face and said yes, he saved it. So I asked him if he had read any of it. Very funny look on his face now, and a forced casual answer that really didn’t say yes or no. He didn’t say anything more about it that night, and neither did I.
The next week he catches me going around the house, taking photos of all the things he had done for me or us. This was for the post Taking Pride in his Accomplishments. There was no beating around the bush this time! He asked what I was doing and I told him I wanted to show every one what an awesome hubby I have.
Want to know nerve wracking? Writing about someone as they sit beside you reading over your shoulder and making sure you get the facts right. Yes, he did!
The point in all this rambling, (I always have a point) is that things have changed. When he saw me publicly praising him, sharing how proud I am of him, he began to change. Not much, just a little at a time, but he changed. As I changed my attitude towards him, he changed his behavior towards me.
I think I may get it now. Understanding how my man works is still a walk in the dark, but I’m learning where the path is. I may not understand everything that he does, but I’m learning how to stay “on the path” of his good side.
Tweet this ~ By focusing on the good, I found the man of my dreams. Sure he’s not perfect, but he’s imperfectly perfect for me!
I feel incredibly blessed to be the Wife of my Husband. Blessed that the Lord created me for him, and blessed to be on this journey towards becoming the wife God created me to be.