Christ shows us grace by forgiving our sins. He set an example, that we can follow by showing grace in marriage. Showing grace and forgiveness when our spouse has hurt us.
God gave each of us a mouth, and any one who knows hubby or I, will tell you that we know how to use our mouths. 😉 We are called to use our words to uplift and encourage each other. That’s easy enough to do when things are going well. But what about when things are not going well? What about when we have a disagreement? Do we use our mouths for good then?
I am so ashamed to admit I do not. Oh, how many times after an argument do I realize how hurtful I have been. Many times, even in the midst of my verbal spew-age, I realize how hurtful my words are. I want to stop yelling and yet I want him to know just how mad I am.
How many times to we find ourselves in that situation? We want to stop our hateful words, but we also want others to “see our side of the story” and admit we are the ones in the right.
Dropping that for a minute and going back to the example Christ set for us. He was GOD! If anyone was ever truly in the right, it was him. Yet, he humbled himself and showed grace, even to death he showed us grace. When others were being hateful, he shut his mouth and he forgave.
So, if Christ can show that kind of grace, then we as his followers can too.
How can we show grace in our marriage?
- Walk away. I’m not saying leave the issue unresolved, but wait until tempers are under control to resolve the issue.
- Shut up. This is the biggest issue for hubby and I. One of us will try to walk away, and the other will follow still trying to push the issue.
- Time out. We, as adults still need these. 🙂 A time to think and reflect on our attitudes.
- Walk in your spouse’s shoes. It’s not always a matter of who is right and who is wrong. Many times you are simply viewing opposite sides of the coin. Try and see their point of view.
- Seek forgiveness. I usually feel so ashamed, once I have calmed down I realize that once again I blew it. My lid, my mouth, my temper and all of it. Even if my point was right, I usually am wrong in how I present.
- Forgive. This is grace, forgiving the other, even though they hurt you.
I am so imperfect, many times when things are not going well between hubby and I, I will be asking myself what I did to deserve a jerk like him. That is pride. When I realize that I have failed once again, I am asking the same question a little differently. What did I do to deserve his love? Humility.
What did I do? Nothing, I did nothing to deserve the love of Christ, and in the same sense, I have done nothing to deserve hubby’s love and forgiveness. My dear, annoying and yet loving hubby has shown me a true example of grace many times.
Maybe by now you will see that we are not perfect. Perhaps you realize we are not so different, eh? We have our struggles and our rough times, right in with the good times. However, if we are not showing grace in our marriage then we are going to fail. Plain and simple.
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