He’s my protector. I cannot count the times I hear words like these: “Be careful driving to work.” “Watch the roads tonight, they may be slick.” “Did you take your vitamins?” “See that poison ivy? Walk over here.” “Got your phone?” Ok, I think you get the idea. 🙂
All those comments and many others, he says to protect me or look out for me. But guess what? My nature finds them annoying. Be careful driving to work, and I’m thinking, “duh! I’m always careful.” Did you take your vitamins and I’m like ” you’re not my dad, I don’t need you to remind me of everything!”
Why is it, that the words he speaks because he’s my protector gets misconstrued as criticism or the idea that I cannot take care of myself? I wish I knew, but will have to chalk it up to human nature and the differences between man and woman.
You see when I think of protector, I’m thinking of him opening doors for me, making sure my vehicle runs nicely (which he does after I beg a little), sticking up for me whenever. Squashing spiders (yes spiders!) and all sorts of other things. Somehow or the other, I get it in my head that he doesn’t do these things. But when I think about it, he does.
He does all of those things, but in his own way. He squashes spiders, after he laughs and teases me unmercifully for a bit. He opens doors but smacks my rear when I walk by. Works on my vehicle and does his best to keep it running smoothly, sure I have to keep reminding him of it, but he does get it done.
So where am I going with all of this rambling?
He’s my protector. And when I don’t see it, it’s not because he quit protecting me, but that I am misinterpreting his actions. So now when he says something that annoys me, I try really hard to understand what he’s not saying, rather than what he is saying.
See where I’m going here? If we focus only on the words coming out of his mouth, then we will likely misunderstand every time. But if we focus on the heart of the matter, which why he is saying that, then we will be able to understand.
Tweet this! ~ If we only focus on the words coming out of their mouth, we will misunderstand every-time. Look at the intent behind the words to understand.
Now if only I could always remember this in the heat of the moment!He’s my protector and instead of taking his actions at face value, I need to look a little deeper and understand the meaning behind his words.
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