It’s an old saying “If Momma Isn’t Happy, then Nobody’s Happy”. I find that statement to be pretty true. As the “queens of our homes” we are largely responsible for the attitudes that are found there.
How we feel about order and cleanliness will be reflected in the overall appearance of our homes, and how we feel about life will be reflected in our family’s attitude. If we are short-tempered or easily frustrated, our kids will quickly pick up on that and react in a similar manner.
Please don’t misunderstand me here. I’m not preaching at you, but rather at me. This is something I have to work on daily.
If Momma Isn’t Happy, We Have a Problem
If an unhappy momma is contributing to the tension, stress, anger, frustration, or any other problem in the home; the answer seems clear. Momma just needs to get happy!
However, a clear answer isn’t always a clear solution. Momma needs to get happy, but how?
The “American Dream” tells us that stuff will make you happy. Just a little retail therapy should do the trick, or maybe you need a sitter to take the kids so you can go for a spa day.
It sounds great to send the kids off for a bit and go shopping or spend a day pampering yourself. (I mean be honest, when is the last time you actually pampered yourself?)
It may be refreshing, it may give you a little boost, but will it really make you happy?
Society tells you that you can make you happy. That happiness comes from within and you just need meditation and positive mantras. That happiness is already there and you just need to find it.
So you take the time apart and do some meditation. You tell yourself all the positive things that you are supposed to and try to “discover yourself”.
You will likely come to a better understanding of who you are, but will you really be happy?
Scriptures tell us to look up. They teach us to lean on God and trust in him. They show us a savior who wants to give us peace, and when we accept peace, then and only then can we find true happiness.
True happiness doesn’t come from things, it doesn’t come from some new age self discovery, nor does it come from others. True happiness comes from above.
True happiness comes from being in the center of God’s will for us. It comes from the peace that happens when we trust our creator to care for us. It comes when we are at peace with God’s plan for our lives.
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. James 14:27
Like I already said, I’m preaching to myself. It is not my personality to sit back and let life happen, instead I’m the one trying to make life happen. But I know that when I am trusting God’s will for me, then I have peace and then I am truly happy.
And when I have peace, the entire family is calmer and more joyful as well.
In conclusion; if momma isn’t happy, then momma needs peace.
Will you join me sisters? Will you join me in praying for peace in our hearts, for praying that God’s will be done in our lives and that we can trust him to care for his children?
Heather @ My Overflowing Cup says
July 26, 2015 at 10:27 pmVery well said, Kendra!
We are responsible for the tone of our homes, but more importantly, we are responsible for making the decision to be content in and find peace in Christ.
Thanks for this friendly (and somewhat convicting -but in a GOOD way!) reminder.
May He continue to fill our cups to overflowing as we seek His peace regardless of our circumstances.
Blessings to you and yours.
Thanks for hosting the link-up.
Kendra says
July 27, 2015 at 2:27 pmThanks Heather, it is definitely up to us to choose contentment in Christ. Thanks for being such a regular visitor 🙂
Terri Presser says
July 26, 2015 at 10:27 pmThank you so much for hosting each week. I agree that my mood generally can set the mood for the whole house and it is so important that I keep a foot on my attitude, thanks for the reminder. Blessings
Kendra says
July 27, 2015 at 2:30 pmOh Terri, I read your comment wrong and thought you said it was important to keep a foot in your mouth!!! Glad that isn’t what you said 😉 I too definitely have to watch myself or I can really let things get out of hand.
Laurie Collett says
July 26, 2015 at 10:46 pmHappiness depends on circumstances, but true joy is found only in Him. Thanks for the great post & for hosting & God bless.
Dorothy says
July 27, 2015 at 1:45 amThis is SO true! I have struggled with anger and depression my WHOLE married life, despite being saved at a young age. About 3 months ago I stood up at church and testified that I was done letting the devil reek havoc in my life and I would NOT allow it anymore. I have moments, but I’m learning to lean and trust on Him more than ever before and I feel so much more peaceful, joyful and actually happy. It’s been amazing! Great article and yes, let’s pray for continued peace and happiness that ONLY comes from God!
Kendra says
July 27, 2015 at 2:26 pmWhat a wonderful testimony! Praise God for giving you this victory Dorothy!
Lux says
July 28, 2015 at 5:35 amMy mood and my thoughts actually reflect on my desk and my room in general. When I’m preoccupied, I’ve got clutters. When I decide to clean up, somehow I figure out what to do and it’s easier for me to think. It works both ways I guess. Clean surrounding, easier thinking. Calmer thoughts, cleaner surrounding. 🙂
Kendra @ A Proverbs 31 Wife says
July 28, 2015 at 7:34 amI totally agree with you there. I’m still in control of my overall attitude, but I know a chaotic house can make me feel a bit crazy, and having things out of place can make it hard for me to focus. That is the primary reason I work so hard to keep things organized around the house. 🙂
samantha says
August 2, 2015 at 10:55 pmI have been struggling with this a lot lately. It seems like I can’t stand anyone around me. My kids get on my nerves, my husband, or anyone else who may cross my path. I get mad cause my children yell at me and I yell back and over react to whatever they have done. In turn I lay in bed at night going over the day and how much I have done wrong. And the next day is no different. I know I am the one who has to change before anything else will. It is so difficult for me. I need joy in my heart and can’t seem to find it. My family deserves a better mom. Thanks for this post it is exactly what I needed to read. God is the only one who can give me this joy. Sometimes we just need a little reminder. Thanks again
Kendra says
August 3, 2015 at 8:47 pmI’m praying that you will discover joy in your life again. Since your kids seem to be pushing your buttons the most, can I suggest that you let them join you in seeking God for joy?
Perhaps they need a little as well. Prayers that things get better, sometimes motherhood feels like the trenches and we just need a little reminder to look up.