Having the sex talk with kids sounds like, well, not much fun. I’m good at being honest with children and stating things as they are. But I am not good at bringing up a subject. As a mom to be, I have often wondered how awkward it be to tell my own offspring just HOW it is they came to be.
Growing up on a farm, my brothers and I had a pretty clear idea of just how nature works. My parents never really told us anything, we just knew. However good that was, there were some drawbacks. Since the lines of communication had not been properly opened, we discussed these things among ourselves and our friends.
While discussion among peers may be okay, it’s not really the way you want your children getting their info. At least based on my experience, it’s not how I want my children to find out.
Today, I know that many kids get their info from media and the internet. Not a good way either.
With a couple brothers who are not yet teens, I know my mom was wanting to do better by them.
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Intoxicated on Life is a Natural Living Christ centered blog. The writers are amazing and I love their Write Through the Bible Curriculum. One of my favorite reasons I’m sure is simply due to the fact that they offer it in the KJV version of the bible as well as other versions.
My mother had bought several of their handwriting books for my little brothers, and when their newest product came out, she was VERY interested! The Talk is a 7 lesson series of bible studies that is written to introduce kids ages 6-10 to biblical sexuality.
My brothers were 9 and 12 when mom went through the series with them. The 12 year old was a little old for the course, and acted embarrassed, but the 9 year old had lots of good questions. Even though the older child was a bit more resistant, this course was able to open the lines of conversation between them and mother.
Having open lines of communication is highly important. For a child to know they can go to their parent(s) with awkward embarrassing questions is very important.
Out of curiosity I read through the course myself. I was very impressed. Very straight and to the point, this course explains the basics in a truly biblical manner. No awkward “we need to talk” with your child, but a simple bible study course that can be used right along side your normal studies.
I really liked how the lessons were laid out. You could simply read the script to your child, or ad-lib if needed. Either way, the course made it really simple to open the subject before your child and get those lines of communication going.
Here is a snip from the forward of The Talk.
I really appreciate the work that was put into this 7 day study, I found it easy to read and realized that the hard part was done. Using the simple, drawings to demonstrate, the questions to ask your child, scripture readings, and a prayer that praises our creator for each day; I am really happy to have this.
Admittedly, I won’t need it for 6 years or so, but I love being prepared!
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Hmmm…I think this is a much better read on Christian sex ed: http://www.amazon.com/The-Failure-Sex-Education-Church/dp/149497231X.
Defining our children as ‘sexual beings’ is a huge mistake, and straight from Kinsey, et al.
It does sound like a good book to read. However, the purpose behind the book that I am talking about in this post, is to help parents shares with their children on how God made us different.
If my mom and dad had done that with us older siblings, we wouldn’t have been as likely to hide things from her. And maybe, just maybe some of our family’s heartache could’ve been avoided.
Parents must be the first to introduce sexuality to their children.
I agree, Kendra. We, my husband and I just had “the talk” with our oldest son. I wish I had known about this book before. However, I am absolutely going to check it out. Maybe we can refine our conversation a bit from here on out. Thank you for sharing this post. Not an easy topic for many, but such an important one! 🙂
Thanks for your comment about my book. I can understand what the phrase “sexual being” when applied to kids raises eyebrows. And yes, Kinsey did use similar terminology. But I try to be very clear in the book what is meant by “sexual.” It is a term that has multiple meanings, depending on culture and context.
When Kinsey said kids were “sexual” he literally meant that they were capable of experiencing healthy sex from a young age. He used pedophiles and child molesters to gather his “research.” The man was disturbing in every sense of the word and eventually died from a disease aggravated by his masochistic sexual lifestyle.
When I say children are “sexual,” I stipulate in the book that I am speaking of their natural curiosity of things that pertain to gender and intimacy. I also say that this means they are capable of listening to age-appropriate conversations about sexuality.
I just purchased this course thanks to your recommendation. Our oldest (a boy) is about to turn 11 and we’ve been advised to have the talk with him as friends from church are likely to start having that talk soon if we don’t (our children are home schooled). I’ve been very nervous about this and I finally feel like I can just safely have the talk and answer all of his questions without making him feel uncomfortable or feeling like I’ve given him too much information. Thank you so much! We’ll likely use this for all of our children in the future (we’re currently due with #7, 5 of whom are boys). Thank you again, this was perfect timing! Only God!
I am so glad!!!
I really want this to get out because I have heard first hand, how even in our church things are happening with our children and the parents don’t realize it. Truthfully, I feel that those lines of communication need opened as soon as the child’s able to understand, I really want our kids to come to us first on these matters as I’m sure you do as well.
Prayers for you and your family!
Thanks so much for the review of “The Talk” Kendra! We appreciate you taking the time to tell your readers about this resource 🙂